tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8748664033662614156.post8456193272437015445..comments2023-05-17T11:14:14.344-04:00Comments on the sweet life of a southern wife: mommy meltdownsSouthern Wifeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03089181439730920093noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8748664033662614156.post-23595631093022466162013-03-19T21:27:40.317-04:002013-03-19T21:27:40.317-04:00First with Matthew. This has been a really hard se...First with Matthew. This has been a really hard season for everyone. I am almost never sick and I've found myself sick like 4 times this winter. My oldest was sick three times which is also outrageous for his track record. Even the hubs was down twice over the winter. Everyone I know, kid or adult has been in the trenches of these illnesses that just keep popping up. Then of course, you add teething to it and that's like adding fuel to the fire. It's so hard. I know. Thankfully, we're coming out of winter and spring will most certainly bring a little normality back to our lives. <br /><br />For teething, have you tried using all natural teething supplements. They have homeopathic teething gel, teething drops and if you haven't already, you could also try refrigerated teething rings or rags. Rags seem to be a little easier to manage for pain. I am like you, against giving the kids any sort of medicine unless they absolutely have to have it. Thankfully, neither have needed anything more than a little baby tylenol and the homeopathic teething gel I suggested. And that gel, you can find at Walmart. If you are looking for something else, maybe try a natural health market in your area to see what they offer. Might be well worth it and possibly more effective. <br /><br />Secondly with the hubs, having a child really heats up the arguments. What could have been a simple disagreement turns into verbal lashes that resonate even once the fight is over. The hubs and I have had a few low blow type arguments, but I've always been able to trace it back to lack of sleep, work stress (for him) stay at home stress (for me) and lack of quality time spent together. Sometimes we have different parenting ideals, but what we've learned is that if the other one does something that we don't like or don't agree with, we wait until the children are in bed and then discuss it. Having a sit down talk about it and figuring out how to manage as a team has really helped us be a team all the time. It can be frustrating at first, but it works. <br /><br />I think what you guys may need is a little heart to heart (after both sides are cooled down). The amount of time together does not necessarily equal quality time spent together. With Matthew, it's hard to get that quality time for you two. Make sure to do that. And it's also easy to forget about doing nice things for each other or having a conversation that doesn't evolve around the baby or what needs to be done for the baby/house/work. The hubs and I have a date night every Friday. We rent a movie, snuggle up together and just enjoy sitting together. Other nights, we play cards and talk. It's nice to be able to go out on the town to dinner or a movie, but it's not always plausible so finding other ways to connect at home is essential.<br /><br />Hope that helps! Don't worry Mama, you're doing just fine! We all have our doubts, but I have no doubt that you will weather this storm and come out of the other side stronger and more capable. :)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04496374833491415819noreply@blogger.com